PART 5 TRAUMA..RUBY...THE STRONG ONE

Ruby is an attractive very intelligent engaging woman in her late fifties.  I worked with Ruby briefly in the early 2000's.   At that time she was sober and working a 12 step program.  Within the last year she came back to me for further work.  She was working on what she called her issues with debauchery.  Her issues were now food addiction gambling, drinking and smoking cigarettes.  Her relapse was profound and causing her much distress.  She was able to give up alcohol and food addiction for a clean keto diet but her issues of gambling remained.  We discovered that part of the issue was an issue with her husband who was also debaucherous  with her. In other words he was her "lower companion".  Another stressor in the marriage was her husband was the exact opposite of her politically and he was a very devout catholic and she was more a metaphysical Christian.  

As we were dealing with her addictive issues and marriage issues, I asked about childhood trauma.  She indicated that she had dealt with that years back with another therapist.  She told me the story though.  Her father was clearly a malignant narcissist, alcoholic and sadist.  He would come into her room when she was just a little girl and would force her to drink alcohol until she would pass out.  She did not know if he sexually molested her and she was in a black out.  (I assumed that is exactly what happened as he had that reputation in the family and her older sister clearly remembered being sexually molested by him). He also tortured his children.  While napping he would approach Ruby with a stand up vacuum cleaner and suck her hair into the roller causing her considerate fear and pain.  This man later died by suicide to her great relief.  

I was curious to uncover the current patterns that dictated by this early abuse.  Ruby was groomed to tolerate a lot of abuse especially from intimate partners.  She had been married a few times and all of those marriages were terminated due to abuse or infidelity.  Her current husband is kind but very avoidant of conflict which renders him the weaker partner.  Ruby wears the pants in this relationship which is the inversion of the previous pattern of overt abuse.  Her current husband is passive aggressive rather than overt, the opposite side of the same coin.  If Ruby slips and gambles and smokes he  slips too. if Ruby abstained from both addictions so does he.  She easily takes on the mantle of aggressor and the partner who demands compliance in most areas of the marriage, except for his political views and religious convictions. 

As our work together progressed and a good bond was created, Ruby indicated that she was willing to look again at her trauma issues.  I was very gentle with her and showed her kindness and empathy as she shared how her past trauma mimicked much of the subsequent trauma.  We talked a lot about how she was groomed by her original trauma.  I suggested that she create her own room which was to be her sanctuary and she did.  We were just about ready to delve into inner child work at this writing.  As she read the previous parts of this trauma blog she indicated that she was learning more about self compassion and was willing to implement the work involved in achieving that.  

I feel honored to be Ruby's guide through some of the worst trauma I have ever heard.  My own motherly instincts guide me in helping her adopt a supportive loving inner mother for her wounded inner child.  She is now abstinent from alcohol, gambling, food addiction and smoking!  We continue our work together with loving kindness for each other.  

Much love and be well,

Michele Happe MA mhappenow.happe@gmail.com  775 230-1507

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If you suffer from addictions of any kind and want to recover

Then follow these steps

1). Clean up your nutrition by reducing carbs, first sugar then grains then starchy vegetables. Reduce your carbs to 20 grams net and eat only whole real food. Eat moderate protein and replace carbs with healthy fats like animal fats olive oil and coconut oil. 

2). Begin an exercise program like walking, weight training, swimming biking or playing sports at least 3 times per week. 

3). Get adequate sleep shooting for 8 hours based on your own biorhythms.  Whether you are a night owl or a lark accepting these rhythms will enhance your sleep experience. 

4) Attend support meetings of your choosing. If you don’t like groups find a recovery coach, counselor or therapist. If you are dealing with previous trauma, make sure you find someone who is experienced in dealing with this. 

This may feel like a very tall order but it is worth it to create a long and healthy life without addictions..

Live as clean a life as possible and you will not only reverse your addiction but will feel and function better than ever. These steps also reverse many mental health conditions and metabolic health conditions like obesity and diabetes.

Be well,

Michele

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AUTISM AND FOOD

As a very late diagnosed autistic woman myself and an expert in eating disorders I have been cogitating on the relationship between food and self regulation in autistic people.  As background I ran one of the first eating disorders in the country and am myself recovering from anorexia and compulsive overeating.  Parenthetically I am also sober for 45 years.  I became a metabolic coach a few years after learning about therapeutic ketosis for my metabolic health.  To my delight all the symptoms of my eating disorder resolved particularly when I adopted a carnivore zero carb eating regimen.  I like regimens because I am autistic and it fits so well with the way my brain works.  

I recently began working with a brilliant autistic woman who was in deep trauma from a very unhappy marriage.  She wanted support for her mental health and, particularly from her bulimia which I prefer to call vomiting behavior.  In autism it all starts with food preferences.  It is well known that due to our hyper sensitive nervous systems we gravitate to certain foods.  I wasn’t particularly picky as a child although my favorite breakfast was graham crackers crunched up in a bowl with chocolate sauce and milk.  My mother let me eat this.  I was always  a very ritualistic eater for instance eating around the core of a carrot to savor the sweet inner core as my ritual finale.  Speaking of carrots in my adolescent anorexic years I ate so many carrots that my skin turned orange.  

Autistics are all about attempts at self regulation.  We constantly are looking for ways to self soothe especially if we are high masking individuals who are attempting to fit into the neurotypical ways of our peers.  We have many food aversions which restrict our consumption around texture and taste.  Most of these self regulatory attempts are referred to as stimming.  Most of our stimming behaviors are healthy and to be encouraged as they do help us to self regulate.  Some of them however are harmful.  Eating disorders and other forms of addiction, cutting, etc. can lead to shame and blossom into depression, anxiety, OCD which only cause more pain and the need to self regulate which can lead to a disastrous feedback loop of pain, suffering and more metabolic illnesses down the line such as diabetes, heart disease, IBS, and cancer to name a few.  

I teach all my clients who are suffering from metabolic disorders including depression and anxiety to get into therapeutic ketosis which will ultimately enable them to focus on the other issues which lead to health such as regular exercise, good sleep, and particularly for those with autism, to set up your life which reduces stress, such as avoiding small talk, parties, noisy environments and most importantly unhappy stressful relationships.  Most of my relationships are with my immediate family who I live with who are also introverted and don’t give me grief for preferring to be alone in my sweet little safe room.  I have a few outside friends who get me and love me for my quirky self.  The remaining relationships I have are with my clients and my Buddhist sangha because I love my work and Buddhism and we engage in anything but small talk. 

If what I am sharing here makes you wonder if you might be on the Autism Spectrum or on your way to or have a metabolic illness do your research.  Learn more about those issues which plague your equanimity and balance.  And if you are so inclined to get professional health give me a call or find someone who is well versed in Autism and metabolic health who can support and guide you into a more fulfilling happy life. 

Be well

Michele: mhappenow.happe@gmail.com, 775 230-1507, Blue Sky, and Linkedin 

THE COW BURP MYTH....

For years we have been told that cow burps produce methane which is responsible for global warming so stop eating meat!.   The problem with this concept is that scientists are conflating methane with CO2 in error. CO2 is the primary cause of warming. I will make all this as simple and understandable as I can and I’ll post a very geeky video which explains this with citations.  OK here goes.

Methane is emitted from cow burps...methane has a life span of 10 years and then it is converted to CO2 and is stored in the ground.  CO2 is primarily released from industry like factories, cars, and other fossil fuel burners. This CO2 is released into the atmosphere and has a 1000 year life span.  If cow herds are maintained at current size climate stability is maintained.  Fossil fuel burners are continually feeding the atmosphere so the CO2 rises exponentially.  This takes me back to Al Gores lectures on fossil fuels and the climate.  

If there is an increase in cows then methane  help to increase global warming so we need to be very careful to prevent this.  To go a step further we can reduce the current effect of cow burps by covering lagoons on dairy farms and converting the entrapped methane to fuel that is more sustainable and ecologically healing rather than harming since this step will contribute to global cooling.

here is the very geeky video, trust me its really good.

I am an advocate of regenerative ranching rather than factory farming and ranching.  There are wonderful benefits.  They are:

    Improved soil health and fertility-using rotational grazing, cover crops and no tilling.

    Increased carbon sequestration- rotational grazing and cover crops bolster the soil's organic matter                which stores more carbon that is not released into the atmosphere.

    Reduced input costs-  by decreasing operating expenses, increasing efficiency and profits for the                       rancher.

    Boosting health through enhanced biodiversity-  rotational grazing contributes to balanced                         ecosystems and overall health of pastures, livestock and improved productivity.  This safeguards                 natural resources.  

    Opportunities for soil carbon farming.-Carbon credits can be traded increasing profit margins.

    Cattle welfare- utilizing sustainable ranching benefits cattle by giving them a more nutritious diet, less             disease and stress and a stable habitat giving consistent forage availability

                                        (http://maiagrazing.com)

Well there you go.  Now you are armed with the science that dispels the myth of cow burps!  The erroneous conflation of methane and CO2 seems to be enough to contribute to our mistrust of everything in the media.  The answer is do your own research or read blogs like this one and watch the videos on this subject  

Until then, 

I am Happe to help...call me: 775 230-1507 or email me: mhappenow.happe@gmail.com

Be well, 

Michele

INTESTINAL TROUBLES LIKE IBS, CROHN’S, CONSTIPATON etc and KETOSIS.....REALLY?

Yes really.  I tell my clients that I have a PhD in poop!  A few months after covid in October.2020 I was suffering from long covid.  I had superficial blood clots, neuropathy all over my body (remember I am in my 70's).  At the end of January I got constipated.  I had never had much trouble with this in the past so I didn't really know what to do.  It really hurt when I pushed.  After just four days of this I had a searing unbearable pain in my gut and rushed to the hospital.  I started throwing up and an X-ray confirmed my colon had perforated.  A few hours later I had a foot less colon in my body and a iliosomy bag hanging from my stomach.  I was suffering from mild sepsis and was weak and totally freaked out.  I was in the hospital for over a week and had the bag removed in reconnection surgery about 6 weeks later, then I had to have another surgery for numerous incisional hernias and treatments for small bowel obstructions.....it was a nightmare.  We all concluded this was an artifact of long Covid.  

I have every possible over the counter for constipation just in case and still pray every morning and am grateful for a successful poop.  I was recently watching an interview between Bret Schur MD and Nick Norwitz PhD about ketosis and his severe illness with Inflammatory Bowel Disease.  It was terrifying and enlightening.  He had tried everything and as he said he had no life in his early 20's.  He was worried that surgery was the next step and in order to avoid that he tried the ketogenic diet.  His symptoms improved, the bleeding stopped and eventually his disease was in total remission.  He is now getting his MD at Harvard and has his PhD in Cell Biology and Biochem.  (see video below).  

Since I am total carnivore now and was originally told I needed a low fiber diet, my intestine and colon are very happy.  If you have any intestinal issues I would heartily recommend the Keto/Carnivore diet and watch many issues as well as intestinal issues resolve.  So now without further ado let's watch Nick and Bret dive into this issue.  

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Amazing huh!

If you need any coaching for all things keto/carnivore give me a call, email or text. I can be reached at:

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Until next time:   Be well

CANCERS RELATIONSHIP TO GLUCOSE

 In my September 24th blog post a made a list of some of the most prominent metabolic diseases that are responsive to nutrition.  My goal is to take each on and give you scientific information on how ketosis is beneficial and can cause remission of these diseases.  

The BIG C is the most feared and difficult diseases to cure.  Cancer is on the rise and is showing up in younger and younger populations.  The current method for treating most cancers are chemotherapy, immunotherapy agents and radiation in an attempt to kill those cells and tumors that are malignant.  Those medications are toxic and sometimes life threatening.  There is also the threat of recurrence of the disease.  Some groundbreaking research is being done by Thomas Seyfried PhD a professor of biology...management and Prevention of Cancer at Boston University.  He has published numerous papers and studies on how cancer cells react to glucose and glucagon as opposed to ketones.  

He has found that in order for a cancer cell to grow and multiply it needs both glucose and glucagon as its energy source...AND in the absence of glucose primarily and the inclusion of ketones the cancer cells shrivel up and die.  He has done experiments with animals (I now my heart breaks too) and clinical studies with humans and his results are really amazing.  I will include a link so you can watch an interview which explains in detail all the mechanisms involved.

In short he says that a very low carb or carnivore diet or even other types of diets which cause keto adaptation are a first step.  He also emphasized other life style interventions such as exercise, reducing stress, good sleep,  eliminating smoking, drinking alcohol on a regular basis, and avoiding environmental toxins.  He emphasizes that genetics are simply risk factors and that cancer is primarily a metabolic disfunction of the mitochondria in every cell of our body.  

Since I don't have a PhD in cell biology will post a wonderful and sometimes goofy interview with Thomas Seyfried and Dr. Ken Berry, a family physician who helps thousands heal using keto/carnivore nutrition.  

https://www.youtube.com/live/EN58tZ6dspA?si=RXWFgv4HGxotLQHb

I hope you learn from and enjoy this video.  I appreciate any comments or questions and please subscribe to my blog.

Until next time, 

Michele

ACTUALLY HOW BAD IS ALCOHOL FOR YOU

I have been sober since 1980...I have always been grateful for my sobriety because it has helped me clean up my act in so many other ways.  But now I discover that the dangers of consuming alcohol are so much more profound than I ever knew.  I will be posting a link to one of my hero's in the mental health and theraputic ketosis space, Dr.Chris Palmer, a psychiatrist at Harvard.  He is working with the most "hopeless" mental health disorders schizophrenia and bipolar disorder.  Who knew ketones would be a profoundly helpful treatment to eliminate the heart breaking symptoms of these disorders.  

Back to alcohol.  What I have learned is that alcohol damages the mitochondria in every cell of our body.  Mitochondria are responsible for energy created in those cells.  This can even occur in what is considered healthy levels of drinking especially if you have a genetic predisposition for alcoholism.  The most profound damage happens first in the liver (we all know that) and second, to the brain!

Many believe that the brain gets its primary energy from glucose...but this is not true.  The majority of the world population are fueling their brains with glucose because of the over consumption of carbs.  What the brain actually prefers are ketones, a fatty acid, for fuel.  This is also true for the liver by the way.  The harmful byproducts of alcohol  sneak into the brain preferentially and at first make us feel better but ultimately damage the brains ability the receive the energy it needs to function.  Not only do ketones heal the brain and liver and so many other systems in the body like the heart, but they also heal and reverse the whole metabolism.  

Even moderate consistent amounts of alcohol can do damage to the brain, liver and even the gut promoting many types of cancer, demential and cirrhosis of the liver.  

This is a brief intro to a wonderful video with Dr. Chris Palmer.  If you want to be scared about you drinking please watch...he gives solutions to the problem at the end which are very hopeful indeed.  

Here is the link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I1UT-XKQFD0

I welcome your comments and please subscribe because I will be posting on a more regular basis and tell you friends and family to visit as well.  

Michele

775 230-1507.       mhappenow.happe@gmail.com

KETOSIS FOR WEIGHT LOSS....AND WAY BEYOND...

Lots of exciting things are happening in the scientific world  about ketosis.  Not only is ketosis good for weight loss it also successfully addresses and either minimizes or reverses:

    TYPE 2 DIABETES

    PCOS

    HEART DISEASE

    CANCER

    IRRITABLE BOWEL AND CRONES DISEASE

    ADHD

    ALZEIMERS 

    SCIZOPRENIA AND BIPOLAR DISORDER

    DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY

    AUTISM SPECTRUM

    ALCOHOLISM

and the list goes on

I have been in some form of ketosis for many years.  This year I doubled down and became carnivore because I wasn't happy with an A1C of 5.9.  Within a week of the change I started seeing blood glucose consistently under 100!  There are so many benefits.  No more hangry, mood leveling out, I get to eat lots of butter and bacon (who doesn't love bacon), really good sleep, no more cravings for anything, and memory improvement (barring difficulty with nouns and names....Im 74 in October) and a stable weight for the first time in my life.

I have been working with clients as a recovery coach, a mindfulness coach and in the last year as a metabolic coach.  With gentle loving shoves, many of my clients have adopted the diet with wonderful results.  One is off 3 meds for diabetes.  Many have lost lots of weight and feel better.  Many report stable mood and less anxiety.  And all report a freedom for craving and addiction to carbs....because they have severely reduced carbs to under 20 total.  I spend hours each day researching all the best science around therapeutic ketosis.  It abounds and is fascinating and gives me a good foundation for helping others in my private practice.  It also helps the I ran one of the first eating disorder units in the country in the 1970's.  

I am on a mission.  It makes me so happy for my clients to get such great results just by changing what they put in their mouth.  I have started a text group for all of them and want to expand to others who are interested in healing their metabolism. If you are interested give me a call or text.  All my practice is video now so it doesn't matter where you are worldwide.  As a practicing Buddhist my commitment to kindness and non harm has enabled me to be of service with a small slice of the population in my endeavor to heal the world....

Until then...be well

Michele Happe MA

775 230-1507    email: mhappenow.happe@gmail.com

My Experience with the Ketogenic Diet

After menopause I gained about 20 lbs.  I was eating about 1200 calories per day and still gaining.  My diet was very low carb.  I was desperate as my sister will later die of a heart attack at 54.  I know that in our family the road to health and longevity was very narrow.  I lost 30 lbs on Medifast and loved it but did not want to continue to eat packaged food.  I began to research.

I found information on the Ketogenic Diet which is similar to Atkins but not identical.  I am a geek so I looked for scholarly info and found a bunch of lectures by Jeff Volek and Steven Phinney who are medical doctors actively involved in scientific research on the effects of the diet.  After hours of watching videos and reading articles I decided to give it a try.

One of the things I loved about starting out was figuring out the proper proportions of what they called "macros".  It was a steep learning curve but since I am a geek I enjoyed the new technology involved in getting proper proportions of macros while keeping calories reasonable.

Within a week I felt wonderful.  I was full and satisfied all day, I enjoyed all the high qualities foods I was eating and my mind became so clear.  I had energy and found that my mood was so much more stable and I was content.  I have a long history of being a food obsesser.  I would plan after one meal what the next meal would immediately be.  All of that was gone.  The only time I get weird and cravey is when I get hidden sugar, especially in Thai food.  I never even consider eating grain related foods or high carb vegetables or fruit because I don't want to lose this wonderful feeling of non attachment to food.

I am planning on having my blood work done in November so I can do a comparison with last year before Keto.  I will let you know how it goes.

In the meantime,

Be Well